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I’m Just Going To Delete My Blog and Not Tell Anyone

by Monique on August 11, 2008


As bloggers, do we have an obligation to the people who stop by and read our posts everyday? Is it ok to just vanish off the face of the earth and never explain it to those same people? What about a long, unexplained hiatus? Is that ok to do?

I don’t think it is… even though I have done it before. Of course, my previous blog was some silly dribble written in a semi-anonymous fashion with close to no comments. But I could never imagine doing it now. I would feel like total shit. I have opened up myself far too much and actually become friends with a lot of the people who used to just lurk across these pages.

Not too long ago I went to do my daily visit of a blog I absolutely adored and it was gone. Deleted. As if it had never existed and I was pissed. I felt cheated, and in many ways betrayed. She had shared so much of herself and her life… her struggles and family issues and then POOF, it was all gone.

I stopped and thought about the possibilities that maybe just maybe her candid posts had offended someone close to her, but even that did not excuse deleting the blog. Why not just delete the posts, write a little blurb saying good bye and then leave. That way we the readers would at least know something.

I know that sometimes life can grab us and distract us from blogging. I also know sometimes we just don’t feel like doing it. Blogging can become boring after awhile and I get that… I get bored too! But blogging is kind of like a job; we just can’t take off and not be accountable to someone. Or can we?

I suppose you can if don’t give two shits about your readers… and if that’s the case, what the hell are you blogging for?

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Why Must You Make Me Be Mean?

by Monique on July 22, 2008


It’s Tuesday and I am beginning my mini-vacation. I don’t return back to work until Sunday. I plan on getting a lot a few things done around the house, Plus, I was hoping to finish setting up the meme and award portion of my own site as well catching up on a few of my favorite blogs. I still haven’t uploaded my doodles for Doodle Week!1

Anyway, as I was surfing the web today, I found myself getting cranky which only means it’s time for me to go down the dreaded, yet pretty simple list, of my blogging pet peeves. If I offend you, sorry, but my usual blog surfing has gone from pleasurable to being rather annoying. And I really don’t like being annoyed.2

With that said, let’s get started.

I Do Not Want To Hear Your Music

I really like discovering new blogs. I enjoy reading what you have to say and share.3 However, if you opt to have auto-play music on your blog any slight possibility of us being friends will come to a screeching halt. I know we all would love to share our new favorite song with the world, but you don’t have to force it down my throat. Direct my attention to it, and then allow me the freedom to CHOOSE to play it if I want to hear it.

Not Everyone Uses Blogger

The world wide web is a big big big place. I mean it’s huge… and I know this might shock some people, but not everyone uses google’s version of a blog. I personally use Wordpress. I know there are people who use Diaryland, GoDaddy’s Quick Blogcast, Typepad, Joomla and well you get the point. So, knowing this, why would you set your comments to only allow people who use blogger? Is that fair? I know we all want to avoid spam and other crazy nonsense, but I am sure you want to have people coming to your blog and commenting right? Otherwise, what is the point? I’ve been nice and leaving comments anyway but I won’t any more. If you won’t take 2 minutes4 of your time to make it so I can comment without using some made up google blog then I figure you don’t want my comments anyway.

Oh Yah! I Get To Spend 5 Hours Searching Your Site!

If you use Entrecard, and actually drop your card on blogs, then you might be able to relate to this.

I do not want to spend my life looking for the Ecard widget on your blog. If you can not find a spot near the top or on the absolute bottom then I’m not dropping on you anymore. Wait… I’m going to make an exception and say that I will drop on you if it’s in the middle… but not if its surrounded by a ton of useless links, pictures, advertisements, garbage, and badges. The days where I enjoyed playing “Where’s Waldo” have surpassed, so I don’t want to play it on your blog with your Entecard. I could be mean and pinpoint the specific blogs I am referring to, but I won’t.5

In Conclusion

  1. Please stop forcing your music down my throat.
  2. Enable ALL forms of comments on your blog… It will exapnd your readership, and I bet you will get even more comments.
  3. Put your Entrecard somewhere where its easy to be seen and quick to click.

Thank you, and I really hope we don’t have to have this little chat again for at least a year.


  1. I am such a lazy ass! [↩]
  2. Actually, no one likes seeing me annoyed [↩]
  3. Unless it’s 20 pages about how to make money quick [↩]
  4. I am sure it will take even less than 2 minutes [↩]
  5. Even though I reaaaaaaaallllllyyyyyy want to [↩]

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Tour De Monique?

by Monique on July 11, 2008


Monique Renae in all her goofinessSince I began blogging, I have had the great pleasure of meeting some amazing people. Some of them have become lifelong friends, other are email buddies that I drop a quick email to a few times a year.

Anywho, I had stopped blogging for a bit after my last blog became a place for people to personally attack me and my family. It takes a lot for a person to get online everyday and reveal themselves to strangers. I, unlike many others, blog out in the open. I am not hiding behind an alias… what you get is what you see, and it has always been that way for me and sometimes I have to wonder if maybe I reveal too much of myself.  But then I get to thinking and realize that in order for me to stay true to the purpose of me blogging, I can’t be coy about things.

When I decided to start this blog, I was very apprehensive. Doing the domain under my very own name was something I thought long and hard about, and (obviously) decided to take the chance. So far, it’s been nothing short of amazing. The people who read this, you all are so awesome. The support and blossoming friendships I have developed in these past 7 months have been wonderful!!! It’s made this all so much fun and for that I thank you. Thank you to all of you who read, and comment, and even those who lurk.

THANK YOU!!!!

So, with that said, in the next year, I plan to stalk as many of you as I can by going on my own Tour de Monique. I’m going to get an RV and travel around the country meeting my fellow bloggers. We’ll sit down at a Starbucks and have some coffee (even though I am not much of a coffee drinker) or take a walk through Wal-Mart. Whatever we do, I’ll make it fun. Of course, it won’t happen anytime soon since I am saving up all my pennies so that next year (around this time) I can move into my very own dream home. (Something I’ll talk about that in another post.) But now you all know, I will eventually be coming to a town near you. And don’t even think about turning me down! That means you too Miss Angelika!

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