questions

Here’s a question. And I want everyone to answer, whether you email me or comment or call me, I want to know what you think.

You and your significant other are together for a year, you live together, share everything… You are invited to go out of town for the weekend, lets say to a wedding, and you accept. You leave your partner at home since he/she has to work. As you are flying there, you realize your cell phone is dying, and you forgot the charger. You call as you are getting off the plane to check in and let your partner know about your dying battery. Would you call again within the next three days?

It’s a little tricky, because your phone has no charge… so what would you do? Answer honestly, there are no wrong answers!

As usual, I had some days off and just slacked my way through them.

Actually, this time I have a valid excuse for not doing anything. I am so sick right now. It’s pure misery. I am NOT looking forward to going back to work tomorrow.

Since my last post I have gotten several comments and emails asking about the hate mail I received so, I am going to try and explain it a bit more without going on and on for days.

As I said in my previous post, I had been blogging about my infertility and my eventual plans to adopt. I was very honest about all of my feelings including how I felt about my own birth mother and it was that honesty that led to an anti-adoption forum linking to my site. I had no idea at that time that there were people who were opposed to adoption. The notion of that seemed outrageous to me. There are so many unwanted children in this world. Where would they go if we abolished adoption?

I started receiving comments on my blog, little insults here and there calling me naive and ignorant about the harm I would be doing to the life of a child if I adopted one. That of course baffled me because I was adopted. I never felt harmed or unloved or unwanted. I was never made to feel different. Naturally, my big mouth had to then make a post about it and called myself a happy adoptee. I have always been elated that I was adopted. I know my birth mother and she is in no way fit to even care for a kitten, let alone a child.

Well, that opened up the floodgates for the freaks to just abuse my site and link me to every anti-abortion site and forum under the moon. I started getting a lot of hate mail from birth mothers who called me baby snatcher because I was infertile.

My infertility brought out the other half of the extremist who claimed I was infertile because I had an STD (rofl) or I was too old and allowed my eggs to rot (I was in my late 20’s at he time). It was God’s plan for me to never have children, so it wasn’t my place to then go out and steal one.

These people in my opinion are insane. They take on kind of a cult mentality where no outcome can be good, and all adoption is evil. Every birth mother grieves for their child. Every child belongs at home with their family. No mother truly ever willingly gives up a child. They would rather a woman have an abortion before giving her child up for adoption. How crazy is that!

I know the system needs an overhaul… I know it needs some fixing… but to abolish it completely makes no sense to me. I feel bad for those who have been hurt by it, but I am not one of them. As I said, I know my birth mother, and she has made no attempts whatsoever to contact me in over 10 years. Not because she doesn’t know where I am, or the memories hurt… but because she doesn’t care.

Anyway, if you google anti-adoption you’ll find most of these quacks with ease. I would post some links here but I am sure you understand why I don’t. I don’t support going to their websites either and feeding their egos with “hits”. But that’s out of my hands.

Now I am going back to being miserable and sick and wasting my day.