Originally published at Blogging Monique Renae. Please leave any comments there.
I have been following the very tragic story involving Jennifer Hudson’s mother, brother and nephew. It appears that this morning they have found her missing nephew in the back of the SUV they were looking for.
I honestly don’t know how people recuperate from this type of thing and my thoughts and prayers are with them during this time.
The story isn’t an uncommon one, the choice made by her sister to marry the man who allegedly did this to the family is not something new. It’s happening all over this country… this world… this one happens to be in the spotlight. I know I was on the path to marry a total loser who more than likely would have killed me, or I him, either way no good would have come of it. The best day of my life was the day I smartened up and walked away from him and never looked back. Of course you all have heard the story a million times but I can not stress enough how important it is for us women to be smarter. I was young… I was stupid and if my idiocy can make another woman realize that she is on the same path and changes it, then it makes my struggles worthwhile.
We never ever ever need to settle for less. Ever. I don’t care how fat, ugly, gross, nasty you think you are, you still deserve the best. I thought so low of myself back then that I felt me being with a some deranged drug dealing gangster thug was what I deserved. I justified my ass beatings each time too… always siding with him and his irrational behavior. I thought I could change him and make it better. He just needed someone to love him and that would make it all better.
Nothing I did ever made it better. I am almost positive if I were to google his sorry ass, he’d be either in jail or deceased.
Anyway, I wish someone had told me all of this 20 years ago instead of having to figure it out for myself… So hopefully this will touch someone else who needs to hear it and they find the strength to get out before its too late.
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