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I have many female friends, and even sisters who are in these ridiculous relationships with men who don’t want the same thing from life that they do… but yet, they don’t leave because they have this delusion that they can change him.
As we all know, I am the queen of stupid relationships, but I can honestly say that I have never been with a man who I thought I could change. Fix him maybe… be the one person who sticks by him through his tantrums perhaps… but I never wanted to change them.
One of my sisters – and I am sure she will hate me telling all her business like this but oh well -has been a relationship with a guy for over five years now. She got pregnant about a year into the relationship and he was not happy at all. He stuck around, told her that was it, no more kids. He also told her several other things he did not want from the relationship. He’s a rare one, who laid it all out on the table so she would know what she was getting into. I told her a long time ago, his desires were not her desires so she needed to be careful. She insisted it was something they could “work on”. Fast forward five years, and they are now married. She wants another child and to move out of the city. Two things he has said no to for as long as I have known him. She is now blowing up my phone all upset because he won’t compromise and I am a bad sister for not taking her side.
Why in the world would you want to have ANOTHER child with someone who didn’t want one to begin with? And why should I encourage it when I know better?
Is there a shortage of men or something? And if so, is it that great that women must now settle for less than what they want?
I know a girl who is trying to get pregnant in hopes that her boyfriend will marry her. What the hell is that about? Why would you want to tie a man down who doesn’t want to be there to begin with?
When a man tells you he never wants to get married, never wants children and that’s ALL you want, why would you continue in the relationship? Maybe it’s just me. I don’t get it.
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