Comments on: You Think You Know #13 http://moniquerenae.com/blog/2008/03/15/you-think-you-know-13/ Mon, 08 Sep 2008 08:34:48 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Kathy http://moniquerenae.com/blog/2008/03/15/you-think-you-know-13/#comment-3096 Kathy Mon, 01 Sep 2008 00:46:47 +0000 http://moniquerenae.com/blog/2008/03/15/you-think-you-know-13/#comment-3096 Just pokin' around your archives. Way to freaking go, woman. You are indeed one of the rare ones. My mother told me "If a man hits you once, don't let it be twice." There is never a good reason to stay. I'm so glad you got out eventually and have found joy in your life. I'm so happy for you. Kathys last blog post..<a href="http://www.junkdrawerblog.com/2008/08/no-they-werent-edible.html" rel="nofollow">No, They Weren’t Edible</a> Just pokin’ around your archives. Way to freaking go, woman. You are indeed one of the rare ones. My mother told me “If a man hits you once, don’t let it be twice.” There is never a good reason to stay. I’m so glad you got out eventually and have found joy in your life. I’m so happy for you.

Kathys last blog post..No, They Weren’t Edible

]]> By: Mimi http://moniquerenae.com/blog/2008/03/15/you-think-you-know-13/#comment-427 Mimi Mon, 17 Mar 2008 00:00:56 +0000 http://moniquerenae.com/blog/2008/03/15/you-think-you-know-13/#comment-427 It's good to see that you learned. Some ladies never learn, they stick around until something horrible happens. I have friends who are 20 and 21 who put up with things that they shouldn't! Kudos to you! <em>Mimi's last blog post..<a href='http://choclatsoul.blogspot.com/2008/03/horrors-of-vacuuming.html' rel="nofollow">The Horrors of Vacuuming</a></em> It’s good to see that you learned. Some ladies never learn, they stick around until something horrible happens. I have friends who are 20 and 21 who put up with things that they shouldn’t!

Kudos to you!

Mimi’s last blog post..The Horrors of Vacuuming

]]> By: Angelika http://moniquerenae.com/blog/2008/03/15/you-think-you-know-13/#comment-426 Angelika Mon, 17 Mar 2008 00:00:04 +0000 http://moniquerenae.com/blog/2008/03/15/you-think-you-know-13/#comment-426 Better to be a Runaway Bride than a Battered Woman in jail for murder, IMO. <em>Angelika's last blog post..<a href='http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/wZah/~3/248543634/its-sunday-march-9th.html' rel="nofollow">It's Sunday, March 9th</a></em> Better to be a Runaway Bride than a Battered Woman in jail for murder, IMO.

Angelika’s last blog post..It’s Sunday, March 9th

]]> By: manilenya http://moniquerenae.com/blog/2008/03/15/you-think-you-know-13/#comment-425 manilenya Sun, 16 Mar 2008 22:52:14 +0000 http://moniquerenae.com/blog/2008/03/15/you-think-you-know-13/#comment-425 You're so brave! me I have to wait for another three years and a half with 7 month old baby when I decided to leave the demon. BTW! i addedd you to my first 20 technorati fave :) <em>manilenya's last blog post..<a href='http://manilenya.net/?p=27' rel="nofollow">Unconscious Mutterings: Breakfast</a></em> You’re so brave! me I have to wait for another three years and a half with 7 month old baby when I decided to leave the demon.

BTW! i addedd you to my first 20 technorati fave :)
manilenya’s last blog post..Unconscious Mutterings: Breakfast

]]> By: Mike Lawson http://moniquerenae.com/blog/2008/03/15/you-think-you-know-13/#comment-423 Mike Lawson Sun, 16 Mar 2008 17:41:05 +0000 http://moniquerenae.com/blog/2008/03/15/you-think-you-know-13/#comment-423 What a story!! Holy crap. I think it takes a lot of juevos to do what you did. Most people (brides and grooms) that feel the way you did would just go through with the wedding and live in a miserable marriage for a while. Here's the question though: Did you keep the wedding gifts?!? <em>Mike Lawson's last blog post..<a href='http://whatsomewouldcalllies.com/this-is-the-one-with-a-video.html' rel="nofollow">This Is The One With A Video.</a></em> What a story!!

Holy crap.

I think it takes a lot of juevos to do what you did. Most people (brides and grooms) that feel the way you did would just go through with the wedding and live in a miserable marriage for a while.

Here’s the question though: Did you keep the wedding gifts?!?

Mike Lawson’s last blog post..This Is The One With A Video.

]]> By: Theda K. http://moniquerenae.com/blog/2008/03/15/you-think-you-know-13/#comment-422 Theda K. Sun, 16 Mar 2008 16:17:18 +0000 http://moniquerenae.com/blog/2008/03/15/you-think-you-know-13/#comment-422 Hi Monique, I read your blog through Entrecard too, and I felt compelled to write. I've been in a very similar situation (minus the wedding), and I just wanted to tell you that you weren't stupid. I think domestic violence is more of an illness (a mental illness) for the abused. We were sick while in the relationship, and just kept getting more sick (with help from our abuser). During our sane moments we realized we had to get out of there, but then the insanity returns and we go back. It's a fix. An addiction. And it's hard to beat. I finally left (I had to go a few states away so I couldn't "use" again), and my body when through physical symptoms of withdrawal. So you, I, and other victims of DV are not stupid. I hate for us to beat ourselves up. Our exes already did that enough. We are strong (survivors!) and we were finally able to kick our addictions. It's hard to do. And it certainly teaches us a lot. <em>Theda K.'s last blog post..<a href='http://crayonwriter.com/2008/03/15/teaching-grammar-and-writing-to-young-children/' rel="nofollow">Teaching grammar and writing to young children</a></em> Hi Monique,

I read your blog through Entrecard too, and I felt compelled to write.

I’ve been in a very similar situation (minus the wedding), and I just wanted to tell you that you weren’t stupid.

I think domestic violence is more of an illness (a mental illness) for the abused. We were sick while in the relationship, and just kept getting more sick (with help from our abuser).

During our sane moments we realized we had to get out of there, but then the insanity returns and we go back. It’s a fix. An addiction. And it’s hard to beat. I finally left (I had to go a few states away so I couldn’t “use” again), and my body when through physical symptoms of withdrawal.

So you, I, and other victims of DV are not stupid. I hate for us to beat ourselves up. Our exes already did that enough. We are strong (survivors!) and we were finally able to kick our addictions. It’s hard to do. And it certainly teaches us a lot.

Theda K.’s last blog post..Teaching grammar and writing to young children

]]> By: Tam (fighting with writing) http://moniquerenae.com/blog/2008/03/15/you-think-you-know-13/#comment-421 Tam (fighting with writing) Sun, 16 Mar 2008 15:45:27 +0000 http://moniquerenae.com/blog/2008/03/15/you-think-you-know-13/#comment-421 I think you're absolutely right. There are men that hit women and there are men that don't. If anyone is with the former variey they need to get out as soon as possible. I have had a tempestous relationship with my wife, we regularly have rows and clashes of ego. I'm happy to say that even during our darkest moments, when all the love we feel for each other has disolved leaving only a temporary hate and bitterness in it's wake, when we have wound each other up beyond the point that we knew it was possible to get to, even then, I have never laid my hands on her. I would be a single man the next day if I did. That is the way it should be. Monique, you are a fantastic writer. Of all the blogs I've read through entrecard, yours is one of the ones of the few that can be entertainaing, pleasant to read, funny and thought provoking all at the same time. I hope your talent with the pen is able to inspire women to be strong enough to deal with this sort of thing without them first having to go through what you you did first hand. I think you’re absolutely right. There are men that hit women and there are men that don’t. If anyone is with the former variey they need to get out as soon as possible.

I have had a tempestous relationship with my wife, we regularly have rows and clashes of ego.

I’m happy to say that even during our darkest moments, when all the love we feel for each other has disolved leaving only a temporary hate and bitterness in it’s wake, when we have wound each other up beyond the point that we knew it was possible to get to, even then, I have never laid my hands on her.

I would be a single man the next day if I did. That is the way it should be.

Monique, you are a fantastic writer. Of all the blogs I’ve read through entrecard, yours is one of the ones of the few that can be entertainaing, pleasant to read, funny and thought provoking all at the same time.
I hope your talent with the pen is able to inspire women to be strong enough to deal with this sort of thing without them first having to go through what you you did first hand.

]]> By: Natural Woman http://moniquerenae.com/blog/2008/03/15/you-think-you-know-13/#comment-420 Natural Woman Sun, 16 Mar 2008 15:45:06 +0000 http://moniquerenae.com/blog/2008/03/15/you-think-you-know-13/#comment-420 Girlfriend, good thing you got out there when you did. People get stuck in relationships, happened to me, nothing abusive, but it happens. The important thing is to recognize it's a mistake and make that change. <em>Natural Woman's last blog post..<a href='http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/i-wish-i-had-duck-feet/' rel="nofollow">I Wish I Had Duck Feet</a></em> Girlfriend, good thing you got out there when you did. People get stuck in relationships, happened to me, nothing abusive, but it happens. The important thing is to recognize it’s a mistake and make that change.

Natural Woman’s last blog post..I Wish I Had Duck Feet

]]> By: Jazz http://moniquerenae.com/blog/2008/03/15/you-think-you-know-13/#comment-416 Jazz Sun, 16 Mar 2008 04:29:36 +0000 http://moniquerenae.com/blog/2008/03/15/you-think-you-know-13/#comment-416 A hard life lesson, but you came out on the right side a much stronger woman! Good for you! Your story is an inspiration to many others ;) A hard life lesson, but you came out on the right side a much stronger woman! Good for you! Your story is an inspiration to many others ;)

]]> By: Judi http://moniquerenae.com/blog/2008/03/15/you-think-you-know-13/#comment-415 Judi Sun, 16 Mar 2008 04:28:33 +0000 http://moniquerenae.com/blog/2008/03/15/you-think-you-know-13/#comment-415 Oh Monique, Good for you! I didn't go through anything quite so bad, but I do know that all those experiences I did go through make me who I am. And I like me and wouldn't go back to do it over again for anything. Sounds like you feel similar. :) <em>Judi's last blog post..<a href='http://www.mommamuse.com/2008/03/16/entrecard-giveway/' rel="nofollow">Entrecard Giveway</a></em> Oh Monique, Good for you!

I didn’t go through anything quite so bad, but I do know that all those experiences I did go through make me who I am. And I like me and wouldn’t go back to do it over again for anything. Sounds like you feel similar. :)
Judi’s last blog post..Entrecard Giveway

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